Baylie A Life Shattered. a Promise Kept. a Secret Revealed

This author needs intense therapy. I am so disgusted. 2 stars only because I didn’t DNF.

This was supposed to be a book about her daughter and the creation of a law making choosing a medical advocate a part of college admissions so that other parents don’t end up in the position of not being able to make medical choices for their over 18 children in the event they can’t make choices for themselves due to severe injury/accidents/comas etc. due to HIPAA.

The first part of the book was the author explaining how she chose keeping up with the Joneses and a status lifestyle over spending time with her infant children, instead, leaving them with 2 unstable and abusive men while she worked tons of overtime to afford nice cars, big houses, pools, etc. And how she basically chose having other people raise her kids rather than spending time with them herself. (This is not a diss to working mothers. This author SPECIFICALLY states she chose status over raising her kids.) She then spends an inordinate amount of time talking about her new man, Baylie’s eventual second stepdad, and how loaded he was and how he almost hit billionaire status many times, how he ran in elite circles with the rich and famous in Manhattan’s UES, and how Baylie should not be upset to be uprooted from her home to move in with the new stepdad (her two older teenage sons already flew the coop to get away from her crappy parenting and abusive stepdad,) even though it had been less than a year since her traumatic divorce from the first stepdad when she remarried, and that Baylie should be grateful because he provided a really nice quality of life and status. She kept using words like “mature,” and “resilient” to describe her daughter, when really her daughter was forced to adapt to leaving all of her friends and her grandparents who raised her behind because her mom wanted status again. Her 2 older boys both had psychotic episodes and suicidal ideations and attempts due to the abuse, but she still chose to stay with those men for years. Then she and new ultra rich stepdad do IVF and get pregnant because the author wants a redo of her crappy parenting and can now live a life of luxury because her new husband is super wealthy and she won’t have to work anymore.

Part 2 was all about her daughter being in the ICU after being hit by a car doing 55 after she’d been roofied in an Uber by 2 strange guys she got in with, and basically abandoned by her sorority sisters to walk home in the rain in downtown Miami after escaping the uber by spilling the roofied drink- while still completely out of it. The author forced Baylie to be artificially kept alive for weeks, because Baylie would’ve wanted to live and be a neurosurgeon, despite the most horrific injuries I have ever read about while wailing about how hard it was for her because Baylie was her soulmate, but then several weeks later, after it was too late to pull the plug, legally, decided it was time for Baylie to die because she realized how much pain her body must be in, and how SHE loved her so much that SHE had to let her go, and then she spent chapters talking to Baylie, who suddenly now was talking to her telepathically saying she didn’t want to live like that— and now her mom is telling her to go die because life on earth wasn’t great anyway… but oh wait, let me try to get my doc to harvest HER COMATOSE DAUGHTER’s EGGS SO SHE COULD GET PREGNANT WITH HER DAUGHTER’s BABY BECAUSE HER EGGS WERE YOUNGER AND IN BETTER SHAPE THAN HER OWN IVF EMBRYOS… Mind you, she’s still pregnant with Baylie’s younger sister at this time… and now she is upset that she’s pregnant because she’s too sad because her other daughter is dying and she feels like she traded one daughter for another. So anyway, they threaten to sue the hospital if they don’t let their daughter die and it’s a whole thing. Baylie finally dies after they withdraw nutrition and medical care, and the author goes all depressed because Baylie is gone and she’s convinced the new baby is the reason why… that’s so unfair to this new baby.

Part 3 is after the new baby, Savannah Baylie, is born and the author is now consulting mediums and believes one has contacted Baylie and Baylie wants to reincarnate through an embryo left over from previous IVF cycles- but they lose the baby early in the pregnancy and allegedly Baylie told her that it’s cool, she’ll reincarnate the next time… so they have another cycle and she has Serephina Bailey (noticing a pattern?,) who the author firmly believes is Baylie reincarnated and who allegedly talks to her mom about how she used to be Baylie and used to be a grown up and have brown eyes…

This author is not only incredibly narcissistic, she’s delusional and her poor daughters are going to need intense therapy to recover from being parented by her.

The only positive thing to come from this book is now I realize I need to make sure we speak to our kids about what they’d like in the case they can’t make decisions for themselves, and ask them permission to be granted the ability to make medical decisions for them in that event, until they’re married or create other arrangements.

I am so disgusted right now.